The world we live in seems to get crazier by the day. Somewhere in the midst of it all, we must look for peace, reason-ability, and a quality of life.
Every single one of us is capable of making good or bad choices. It might be a small thing, such as a thought we have or the decision to eat that extra cupcake left behind on the office work table. Or it may be a larger choice which has more consequences...such as an extra marital affair, or getting involved in drug-use.
Whatever the struggle may be, each of us ought to have a Nathan in our lives. A "Nathan" is someone whom you trust, who can hold you accountable when you begin to move in a direction that is really not in your best interests. It's a person that we give permission to talk straight with us - lovingly of course - about our choices. It is usually someone that we know cares about us and has our best interests at heart.
We can also be a Nathan for someone else. Many people know how to be Nathans, but do not allow anyone to be their "Nathan". This is not wise, as all of us are flawed and capable of making bad choices for ourselves.
In the Bible, Nathan was a friend to King David. David trusted Nathan with his life. He knew Nathan had his back so to speak. when King David allowed himself to get caught up in an affair with Bathsheba, it was Nathan who came to King David and held him accountable for his actions. He helped bring David back to his senses. David still had to suffer the consequences of his actions, but he was humbled back into wise thinking as a result of his "Nathan".
Those who are in leadership often have the hardest time allowing themselves to have a Nathan. Everyone looks to that person for guidance and wisdom, and sometimes a leader can fall prey to the thought that needing someone else to give them guidance and correction would make them look weak. nothing could be further from the truth. Find any truly great leader, and they will have someone who they go to for support and guidance. they will have a Nathan who they can count on to tell them straight up when they are going down the wrong path. It is a sign of strength and wisdom, not weakness.
And sometimes those of us who have been asked to be a Nathan find ourselves concerned that if we really do follow through and hold a friend accountable, we will be rejected and our friend will be angry with us. so we hold back in silence while we watch our dear friend fall into the pit. Which is worse? Being the Nathan they have asked you to be, or keeping yourself silent as your friend falls prey to whatever they may have walked into? Tis better to speak the truth in love, than to watch quietly as someone slips into a situation that will bring them only despair.
I am thankful that I have a few friends who are my Nathans as well as a husband who is my best friend, and often a very frank Nathan. when I have the opportunity to BE a Nathan, I don't take it lightly. It means someone is counting on me to be supportive, edifying and also honest.
People were meant to help each other. We were meant to work as a team in this life, and we were not meant to walk this life alone. No matter your position in life, you can be both a person who has a Nathan, and also a person who IS a Nathan.
So.... who is YOUR Nathan?
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